When we consume alcohol, our brain senses a disturbance to this process and takes steps to counter it. It releases adrenaline and cortisol (a stress hormone) to counter the sedating effect of the alcohol. When the alcohol then wears off, these chemicals remain for a period, leaving us feeling uptight and anxious. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Whatever dulled feeling alcohol produces, there is a corresponding feeling of anxiety when it wears off.
This uptight feeling we get when the alcohol starts to wear off is unpleasant. So how do we get rid of this unpleasant feeling? There are two ways. The thorough, complete way to get rid of it is to wait a few days for our brain chemistry to return to normal. If you do this, you need never experience this unpleasant feeling again.
The problem is that a few days feel like a very long time when you are feeling anxious and out of sorts, and there is a far quicker way to get rid of this feeling: take another drink. After all, we feel horrible because our brain is geared up to work under the sedating effect of alcohol, but there is no alcohol in our system. Taking another drink will immediately correct that chemical imbalance. This is the great pleasure in drinking for regular drinkers. We go from feeling anxious, uptight, and uncomfortable to feeling relaxed, confident, and happy in the time it takes to raise a glass to our mouths and take a gulp. So it’s an immediate fix, but an entirely superficial one, because that drink will wear off, and we will need another, and another, and another.
It is also the case that when you are drinking, your brain becomes increasingly proficient at countering the effects of the alcohol. This is what tolerance is. So you need more and more to get the same effect.
So these are two central facets of drinking alcohol: over time, you need more and more to get the same effect, and every dose leaves an unpleasant feeling that requires another dose to get rid of it. This is why moderation is so inherently difficult. It’s easy to drink more and more. It’s hard to maintain the same dose (i.e., not drink more and more over time). It’s incredibly difficult to cut back because, when we do, we often don’t get the ‘buzz’ we’re looking for, and that buzz quickly dissipates, leaving an unpleasant feeling in its wake.
But what about all those people who go through life just having one or two drinks every so often? The fact is that these people are simply not as far down the line as those who drink larger amounts more frequently. That unpleasant feeling is there with every drink. But there are many reasons why we might feel unpleasant: an argument with a partner or friend, too much work or pressure at home, bills you can’t pay, relationship issues. Most of the time, we just get on with things. But when it’s a drug causing this feeling, and when another dose of the drug relieves it, our subconscious soon picks up on this fact. It may take days, weeks, months, or even years. But when it happens, when our subconscious realises that this particular bad feeling can be relieved by another dose of the drug, then every dose causes the desire for the next. This is the case with all addictive drugs, not just alcohol but nicotine as well.
When I started smoking, I only smoked at weekends for many months. Eventually, though, it crept up until I was smoking every day. And when I got to the stage where I was smoking every day, I could never easily return to just smoking at weekends. My brain learned, over time and repetition, that every dose left an unpleasant feeling when it wore off, a feeling that could be relieved by another dose.